Do it on time or pay for the results

Have you had situations when your inner guidance is screaming to you to take action and due to your ignorance the outcome backfires in your field? Have you ever dealt with people who take advantage of you and your good heart?

I admire people who speak their mind right there and then. I don’t mean those who blow up ready a fight, but those who precisely and calculatedly measure the situation and put their boundaries right away. After all, there are people who will go as far as you let them. Nobody else knows your boundaries but you. And nobody else can advocate them for you.

I know it all and yet I’ve felt into my traumatised child behaviour again. It’s interesting how just a few years in our upbringing can mark our life in such a profound way that can take us decades to arrange back to normal.

Lesson of the story? - don't leave your donkey in the mud, as they say in Bulgaria. Get clear on your own values and boundaries, and then draw the line for anyone who tries to cross them.

You’ll fail a few times

Before you actually change that deep rooted, harmful pattern of yours.

Self development drowns in stages. First we’re unaware of what is that really deprive us of being our best self. Then comes the acknowledgement of the pattern, followed by desire to change and implementing small changes. Yet we often think that if we’ve seen it and exercised in our brain the desired outcome we want, that we’ve have change the pattern itself. Until Life sends us another test and we fail it.

It hurts isn’t it? All that hard work behind the scenes, all the understanding and self observation to get on the stage of life experience and behave the same as you used to do all those years.

It might take a few times falling on your face until you learn to manage it or, depending how deep it is, find a way to actually switch it around.

Today I had another test and I failed. I feel deprived, angry and annoyed. I knew exactly what I had to do, the voice told me a few times. But I didn’t. Instead I did exactly what I used to do up to now. And I ended up feeling the same as I have tens of ways before.

Until next time, nasty pattern. Hopefully next time the result is in my favour.

it's up to you

You’re the one who is stopping you.

What if the things you think you can’t achieve are the believe patterns installed in you when growing up? We often label ourselves, put our character in a certain box without even considering if what we constantly repeat comes from us or not. It’s the believe that we’re not fit, dyslectic, incapable of achieving our dreams, etc, etc. that causes confusion in our heads. The soul knows there is nothing it can’t achieve, there is nothing it’s not for it if it’s already planted.

Then how to hack our own mind is the real question. With patience, with understanding, by practicing compassion and proven techniques that many professionals have already shared with us.

The monkey mind will continue keeping you save in the well known limiting believes. That’s okay. But it’s up to you to make the difference.

It's not you, it's them

…or your limiting believe. when it comes down to valuing your work, they (people outside your head) are only responding, reflecting to what you have inside. They are projecting your inner believes to you. Believes that are changeable, that you’ve learned at some point in your life. The value of a work is not simply defined by a price tag, but moreover by value, story and what problem or feeling will bring to the buyer.

I’ve had clients who happily paid whatever I said it costs, and others who fund it expensive. On what base is expensive, I wonder? On the fact that I don’t believe it, or their economical situation? Or is it the way they (we as humans in general) put value on each object, service, experience?

What they find expensive is none of your business unless it’s your inner believe that you don’t cost this much. The value of your work is not related to what others think of it, but rather how you feel about it. Is this the best product/service you can offer your clients? Is your business fully representing you? If not, can you change it to make it so?

Isnt’t an objectification, it’s a reclamation

I understand it might not be what comes into your mind first, but trust me when I say there is a huge difference.

The aim of sensual photography is not to show your unclothed body or present you as a sexual object. Your sexual power is without doubt a mighty force that allows you to create in a unique way. As a woman, you’ve been given the rare, most precious, one of a kind gift and ability to bring and carry life. Your body is a sacred temple, your sexuality is a magical force that deserves to be celebrated.

Sensual photography is exactly this - a respectful, empowering experience that connects you with the side of yourself you often neglect in order to fit into the standards of this man made world. It’s time to remember who you are and what you’re capable of. It’s time to feel comfortable siting on your piedestal, you’ve deserved by birthright. It’s time to let yourself create without guild, shame or boundaries.

We need you just as you are.